My Husband Keeps Making Me an Enticing Offer in Bed. I’m Worried That Saying Yes Is Wrong.
A woman writes to Slate’s advice column about her husband’s use of a large strap‑on dildo, which initially caused pain but later led to intense pleasure and orgasms. She expresses concern that she may be becoming overly dependent on the dildo and notices temporary reduced sensitivity to her husband’s penis. The columnists reassure her that regular use is acceptable, advise mixing in other sexual activities, and suggest pelvic floor exercises.
- ▪The husband bought a large strap‑on dildo and the first attempt was painful for the wife, even with lubrication.
- ▪Repeated sessions became more comfortable and eventually gave the wife a strong orgasm, which she had not experienced before.
- ▪She worries that she is enjoying the dildo too much and feels temporarily desensitized to her husband's penis afterward.
- ▪The advice columnists say using the strap‑on regularly is fine, recommend alternating with other forms of intimacy, and suggest Kegel exercises to maintain pelvic health.
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| Original publisher | Slate Magazine |
| Canonical URL | https://slate.com/advice/2026/07/sex-advice-husband-size-anxiety.html?via=rss |
| Publication time | Fri, 10 Jul 2026 16:00:01 GMT |
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How to Do It My Husband Keeps Making Me an Enticing Offer in Bed. I’m Worried That Saying Yes Is Wrong. Advice by Jessica Stoya and Rich Juzwiak July 10, 202612:00 PM Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by YakobchukOlena/iStock/Getty Images Plus. Copy Link Share Share Comment Gift Story Only Slate Plus members can gift Slate stories. Become a member to share 10 free articles a month. Copy Link Share Share Comment Gift Story Only Slate Plus members can gift Slate stories. Become a member to share 10 free articles a month. Our advice columnists have heard it all over the years—so we’re diving into the How to Do It archives to share classic letters with our readers. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here.
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